Reine, thank you for your advice. Theres a lot here that I've never even considered and I really appreciate a fresh perspective. I'm feeling a lot better about talking to my wife about all this, but I'm not sure when that will be. We moved for her to take a new job (a promotion) that has her a little more stressed than usual, but I think when she gets into the groove of things, she'll be more easy to talk about this sort of thing.

Getting a pedi with her might be a good conversation starter.. I'd rather not bring it up out of the blue, because that seems to surpise her in a negative way. She has confronted me about it all before but not directly. She and I were talking about fantasies and fetishes and she kept asking me if I had any that I hadn't told her about. Of course, I balked (this was a year or two ago) and couldn't bring it out to her. But she asks these sort of questions every once in a while.. I might try and just ask her what she thinks she knows about my cd. One thing I've learned so far from you and from others in this thread is that she probably has a predefined image or conception about what cd is.

Thanks again everyone for your help! I'm always open to more advice Hope you all had a great weekend!