I too, came out by way of a letter. Whenever I started dating someone new, a purge came with it. When I met my to-be-wife 29 years ago, I knew my life as Marsha and I were inseparable. Rather than have her find my girly clothes, or finding Marsha all dressed up when she came home, I wrote her my own long letter. As emotionally charged as CDing is, it was the most neutral way I could think of. I spilled my guts, as we used to say. The next step was DADT, but she appreciated that I wasn't being deceptive. Now she likes Marsha being home on occasionally. She even brings home clothes I might like or help me with my adventures with make up. I am blessed.
