You Will Never Believe What Happened

[NavyM2F_WAM]

My soon-to-be ex-wife came by the house yesterday. I was sleeping due to having to work last night, so I never heard the doorbell or her knocking on the door. When I was about to drive off, I saw a note from her under the windshield wiper.

Today, I met her. She had me sign the divorce papers. My roommate is gone for two weeks. She decided to come by the house. She about had a fit when she saw all the makeup and dresses and heels, etc. She said that she had to get rid of it, at least while I'm still in this house. So, all of my girls clothes and shoes are in her car (except for one dress that I had on underneath my uniform that I was able to hide from her). I was so upset. I had fully expected to go out en femme this weekend, but now all I want to do is hide and (nearly) cry.

[Robyne Rocks]

Wow, that is awful & not at all okay. I can't imagine why she felt she had a right to take your personal things. It's so bad, I can't quite wrap my head around it. I do know divorce is hurtful, stressful, & tends to make you go a little crazy, but that's no justification for her behavior. So sorry you had to go through such a thing.

But, couldn't you go buy yourself a new weekend outfit & hit the town? It sure sounds like you could stand to treat yourself! Just sayin! :-)

[NavyM2F_WAM]

Actually, if she hadn't come here this weekend, I was going to go out and buy more dresses today and maybe tomorrow.

Don't worry, I had some other dresses on order before she came. I feel so horrible and upset, though.

[shedevilcd]

:Angry3: I seem to recall that she has no rights after the two of you filed for divorce..... Especially if you two are separated and living totally independent of one another. And In the case of her taking your stuff that can be considered theft of property. Just saying.

[NavyM2F_WAM]

Makes sense. However, I don't want to hear her mouth.

[Roxie]

If you signed divorce paper ,why did she take your stuff? I'd tell her you want your stuff back. My x-wife went around and told everyone that I dressed. Always one in every crowd.

[Jaylyn]

Take what happens to us in life with a grain of salt and always let difficulties be a learning lesson that can only make one stronger. Don't cry just recover anyway you can. Good luck....

[Hell on Heels]

Hell-o Charlotte, That's just so wrong of her, I would be furious!
I hope signing those papers will help put your mind at ease.
Dad told me "never get married", best advice ever!
Much Love,
Kristyn

[flatlander_48]

The fact that you may not be able to dress for a week or 2 is not devastating. It might be a bit disappointing, but it will pass. However, I would be more concerned about having my clothing items outside of my control. You never know when a fit of rage might strike and all of your stuff winds up in the Salvation Army Donation Hopper or worse...

By the way, regarding photos on discs, etc.:

There are encryption programs the you can get that will make you discs secure. Further, many USB memory devices include encryption routines. The files only become usable when you apply the password that you select.

[Katey888]

Charlotte - I can be sympathetic, but come on!!! :facepalm:

What does that one remaining dress have written down the back: "Please wipe your feet here.."..?

How can you let her do that? Or is she some absolute monster woman... the Sybil Fawlty of Georgia..?

You shouldn't ever let that happen again... Get some steel, girl! Defend your wardrobe!



Katey x

[Paula_Femme]

How can you let her do that? Or is she some absolute monster woman... the Sybil Fawlty of Georgia..?

Sounds like poor Charlotte has her very own, "little nest of vipers!"

[Karren J]

I don't know anything about how amicable your divorce is/was but this seems like one last way to hurt you again. If she had come into the home and taken a prized set of baseball cards that she had no claim to everyone would be telling you to call a lawyer and the cops. Unfortunately this is different. I don't know how out your are to your community so I can't give you any real advise on what you should do, only that I'm sorry to hear she attacked you like this aiming to cause pain.

[BLUE ORCHID]

Hi Charlotte, When one door closes another door opens, Hang in there.

[sometimes_miss]

You Will Never Believe What Happened

Oh, yes I will, as I've been through the wringer too. Had an ex just as mean. All I can say, is distance yourself from her as much as you can, and move on. Not to mention, keep your doors locked.

[Lizzy66]

I am sorry that happened to you Charlotte. That was a very low blow on the ex's part. I think you need to man up as it were and march over to her and demand you belongings back. Not trying to be mean just saying. Once again I am sorry.

Lizzy

[NavyM2F_WAM]

Thanks for the sympathetic and empathetic comments. To be honest, I have been on the edge of tears ever since I woke up. I feel like, now that I let this part of me out, that a huge piece of my "inner person" (or even "soul", if you will) has been ripped out of me. I no longer feel like a whole person. My crossdressing was one of the things that I really enjoyed in life, and it is effectively gone (until my other dresses come in the mail. If she ever comes here again, I will have to hide everything like I never used it.

She told me, after I complained to her, "I didn't say that I wouldn't bring any of it back."

[Kate T]

Sorry, I don't get it. If she isn't living in the house what does she care what stuff you have there?

[Rhonda Darling]

I don't get it either. Why the heck did you let her in in the first place?

She has a key? Change the locks.

She's half owner until the divorce? Change the locks and tell her to get a court order if she wants to come in.

If she has already moved out, tell her to stay the "F" away and keep her hands off your stuff.

It's YOUR STUFF! Protect your property.

RD

[Teresa]

Charlotte does your wife really want a divorce and be rid of you or does she just hate your CDing ?
Her actions are a bit off the map now she's walking away from it, she must really hate your stuff unless she knows it will really hurt you !

Try and pick yourself up and get it all signed and sealed and move on, you're young enough to start over !

[NavyM2F_WAM]

She lives in Jacksonville, FL. I'm just west of Augusta, GA. I rent a bedroom and bathroom from my roommate's house.

[Beverley Sims]

I can only express my sorrow as to how this is all happening.

[cdrachael]

I'm sorry to hear your story. I've had two marriages go wrong and completely different ends of the spectrum. my first ex wife was vicious that was without knowing I crossdressed.. However my 2nd wife who we are separated does know I cross dress and although at first she was shocked she realized that it wasn't about her. As circumstance goes I have had to move back in with her in separate bedrooms with my kids in same house. This has when I have had the opportunity to dress in front of her and talk ok over a bottle or 3 of New Zealand's finest bottle of white wine but was able to tell her how I feel dressed and that it is natural to me. She know says anytime I dress words to the affect of 'you look good dressed'.
I guess I'm saying to you Navym2f its tough but you will meet people excepting of you and feed off them not on negative people. Life is an advantage enjoy it

[Majella St Gerard]

People will walk all over you if you let them, stand up for yourself, she has no right to tell you what to do in your own home and no right to take your things. And I don't understand the wearing dresses under your clothes, underdressing i understand but dresses.

[Kate T]

So she lives in a different state and she came to your house and took your things and you let her do it. Nope, still don't get it.

[hope springs]

She would have difficulty walking cuz my foot would be deep in her ass. Either this is something we dont know or she just stole all your stuff. She is likely just biding her time to set your stuff on fire and send you the pics.
I would take all four tires off her car while she is asleep. Then offer a trade for your stuff back