We all want a figure when we dress and then we want everything normal in our day to day lives.
I think it's unfair to generalize this much. I'd prefer to have softer features in my day-to-day life as well as while fully dressed (I'm usually at least partially dressed). Maybe that's the norm, but "we all" is pushing it a bit too far!
The crossdressing community is one that needs to stick together and continue to be there for each other for whatever one needs. We are always trying to improve the forum to better serve the crossdresser in all of us.