I am in support of full disclosure before marriage. Yet even that may not be a solution as cross dressing, as well as other aspects of one's sexuality evolve. In my early twenties I did not feel that I was a cross dresser. I thought that I just had a fetish for female lingerie and that being able to buy my SO the prettiest lingerie would satisfy my urges. I was wrong about that as my need to dress, use makeup and look as feminine as possible just became stronger and stronger. So a confession at 22 would not be the same as a "confession" at 32.
I have known many men who entered marriage not understanding that they were homosexual. They may have had feelings and even some brief homosexual encounters but put that down to youthful indiscretion and sexual exploration and thought that marriage and a heterosexual life was what they desired. Five or ten years later they realised that the real truth about their sexuality and invariably the marriage failed. Many women have traveled the same emotional path.
As our cross dressing has s strong sexual drive it is not necessarily a constant and will evolve as our hormonal makeup changes. Given my experience I believe that a simple "confession" would be insufficient. It needs to be followed by education and exploration so that the entire issue can be understood and some understanding of how cross dressing can evolve and "morph". Sadly, few are brave enough to face that and I have always thought that a confession needs to be coupled with some excellent and professional counseling. How many potential partners are confident enough to follow this and perhaps, after all the counseling decide that despite strong affection for the prospective partner, that this is not a relationship that they should enter into?
