Sammie,
You've taken a big step and I can only support what Jaclyn and Theresa have said. Do take it slowly; I would let her take the lead here. If you have followed similar threads here, you'll know that she has a lot to assimilate. At least you have been honest, and hopefully she will appreciate that you have trusted her with your intimate secret. Just remember that there is more to your relationship than your CD'ing, and those things should come first. In my case, I came out to my wife soon after we were married, but it has taken 40+ years for Claire to really be part of our life. I hope things will work out for you both.
