I feel bad for you about a 40 year marriage "goin' down the toilet" but if I may ask, what was the reason?????? If it was the cross dressing "thing" then I can understand your anxiety. As far as revealing your penchant for cross dressing why do you have feel as if you have to reveal it now????? Why can't it wait for a while and see where the relationship goes????? You are NOT being secretive about NOT revealing something that is personal and intimate but just being cautious. If it makes you feel better, take a hot bath, slip into something soft and silky and have a glass of red wine!!!!!!!
Molly
