The current TS section is a much more gentler version now than it was five years ago. You can barely recognized it now compared to than.
I read but did not participate back than simply from not wanting to be attacked and now it is fairly simple to ignore those who attack and read the words of those who are couragous enough to share their pain and hard won advice.
Self defensive mechanisms have given away for the most part to respect. Recently the thread "Hope I belong" gave me a twinge of sadness that someone may feel like they will be rejected, judged and ostracized.
For those who have ever been parents you know the good parents from the bad from how much thought goes into creating and bringing life into this world and the awesome responsibility that goes with it.
Love matched with responsibility has a certain flavor that makes it stand apart from all other forms of love and it changes you.
To live with a gender identity opposite your body and to change the body is to be both parent and child to yourself. To be both creator and the object that is created.
Anyone not entralled and absorbed by their own narcissistic ego is sensitive to the suffering of others so reflects on the advice they give from the understanding of the harm they could cause.
Someone who has or is well on their way to transitioning is in the position of being the parent who is creating life by the advice they give others who may or may not go on to transition. Those that are not full of themselves understand the awesome responsibility of giving advice and those who are full of themselves do not care.
Sometimes being a parent is understanding that the pain you give now could save a life later and you have to be willing to be hated in that moment.
Never accept advice from anybody if the advice they are giving is clearly about them as their ego and not from the love of them sincerely wanting the best for you. They are missing their humanity and are not coming from a place of moral health.
There is an element in the transgender community that is highly needy emotionally and egocentric and it is this that drives transitioning,not gender identity. I have never met one that leaves me feeling like I have met a woman.
There is a difference between those who transition and exit the transsexual community even while doing what they can to help others, versus those who make their whole lives this community.
Never define whether you are transsexual or not based on what you find in the transgendered community because you could become even more lost.
Look for those with heart and not ego when choosing your guides because many stay broken even after transitioning.
