I never have fit in, and at this point, I've just accepted that I damn well never will.
The whole idea ... that others could revoke my permission to be myself. Well, if there was a sanctioning authority for "manliness", I'd be happy to picket out front and burn my freakin' "man-card" at this point in my life! The whole mindset irks me to be completely honest.
I can be a good father without also needing to shoot guns and "blow sh*t up".
I can be a loving, caring husband without needing to spend every Sunday afternoon shouting at football on the teevee, and guzzling beer.
I can change the brake pads on my pickup truck and still get cleaned up and go shopping with my wife afterwards.
While we're out shopping I can buy things at Home Depot and Sephora, if want to.
If that crosses off items from someone's "list of manliness", well you know. oooookkkkaaaaay.
I am a crossdressing hippie music nerd ... is that really such a surprise?
It's just another brain-dead stereotype, y'know?
Why bother expending any energy trying to live up to bogus expectations in the first place?
Not that you shouldn't still be there for your wife in all the ways she needs you to be. I certainly am, and have found that I can be even better at that, by not worrying so much about how I come off to others, and just be myself.
My "man-card" always felt more like a learner's permit anyhow, ROFL.
great post, Isha :-)
