I think there are several reasons for this:
- Women are insecure about their bodies & gender role, modern media spends billions to insure it. Talking about pretty feminine TG ladies is bound to increase that insecurity for some GGs.
- There is a natural tendency for CDs / TGs with GG SOs to want to preserve those relationships. Given the ambivalence with which even accepting GGs often feel about their SOs gender variance, not making waves is kind of a good idea, at least from the perspective of a CD in a relationship!
- Male attitudes about protecting the weaker sex are alive and well here. Were I a GG, such condescension would anger me. I think this is a big one.
- The support for partners of a trans* person are basically non-existent. A certain amount of slack for women expressing some pretty raw feelings is probably warranted.
I don't want to be treated any differently either, never have.
although I am treated differently here.
