How to hide your crossdressing from a maid

[justmetoo]

Why make up stories? It's your stuff. It's not illegal. You're not hurting anyone. I guess the only question is if it would hurt you if things got out (especially if you're "in the public eye", or if family would react badly), Using generic "you" there.

When I had a cleaning service I did put stuff away in closets and dressers and such, just so there wasn't stuff all over the floors, counter tops and such, that they were supposed to clean. I also don't like to have things scattered all over the house. If they ever went into the closets to clean or if they ever noticed anything they never said anything.

[Melanie Z]

I should have said that the girlfriend story was the best solution IF you really wanted to hide it. Obviously the ideal thing would be to say nothing and not care if she discovers it.

[justmetoo]

Sorry, Melanie, my reply wasn't directed specifically at you.
You're right, I think. Ideally it shouldn't matter.

[Melanie Z]

It's okay, I wasn't offended. I just wanted to clarify.

[Pumped]

Put a lock on the door to your hobby room and put your stash in that closet. Show her the room sometime to kill her curiosity, but clean that room yourself. Just let the maid know you have hobby stuff in the room you don't want people messing with, so you keep it locked.

Either that or just put the stash in the master bedroom closet, hung up and well displayed and tell her it belongs to a woman friend that stays when she is in town.

[Karolyn]

She already knows I'm single and living alone, so the girlfriend idea (which was a good one) is out. The idea of a friend having clothes there and stopping by might not work well, particularly since most of the clothes are night clothes and evening-style dresses. I don't have many casual clothes.

I will probably use the idea of the hobby room (I actually have one with all my computer and music equipment) and use its closet (I will use the closet of another bedroom for actual storage). I will say I will do the cleaning myself since many parts are fragile, and she will be able to see inside since the door will be open, so that will kill the curiosity. In that case, she will not really have reasons to go inside and open the closet. She will just thinks that it is storage for the equipment.

If she discovers the content after all, I will just say the truth. There is only one person we know in common, and that person knows none of my friends, so the risk of the information spreading is low.

Thanks for all your ideas!

[Beverley Sims]

Either tell her or let it slide and if she asks about the girlfriend tell her you are living in sin.
Both are practical ways of dealing with it.
Personally I would just do the housework myself or sub lease it to some girls which is what I did.

[Sara Jessica]

Like you said, the optimal solution is to simply own it. However, you said...

But just to reduce the risk, I will still try to hide it a bit.

OK, did you read the link I provided above?

In the master bedroom, the closet is behind two giant sliding doors, so no locking possible. The other rooms have closets with small double doors, open from the center, so no standard locking handle can be added. Adding padlock or something like would make her imagination go wild probably. I will probably move my stuff in my hobby room (for music composition), and just let her know to do only a quick clean in that room (only vacuuming), I will just try to make the closet doors hard to reach for the vacuum cleaner and say that this closet is just storage.

I'm thinking you didn't. Here it is again.....

http://www.crossdressers.com/forums/...set&highlight=

Your situation is exactly the reason why I went to the trouble of posting step-by-step instructions with pictures showing how such doors can in fact be locked, certainly with enough security to keep out a maid. You describe the smaller doors which open from the center. Those are likely bifold doors and are what the lock I picture is made for. I adapted it to work on sliders.

So if you want to eliminate the risk rather than just reduce it, it's time to get to work!!!

[Crissy Kay]

You don't have to worry about it, if you are the maid!!

[Sarah V]

I am single and live by myself. I have a nice house, and since I have always traveled extensively for work, hence I am not home much, so I have a housekeeper who comes in every other week, to mainly dust, vacuum, keep the bathrooms looking respectable and the house generally picked-up. One thing I have never asked her to is my laundry. I take care of that myself.

However, she knows about Sarah, and is perfectly o.k. with it.

Likewise when traveling, I do not hide my clothing/toiletries in my hotel room either.

[Karolyn]

Hi Sara,

Sorry, I did read your reply above but forgot to check out the link. I just looked at it, and it is a pretty cool approach. I am definitely going to see if I can follow a similar idea. The closet is way wider than deep, so I can do a section for "him" and a section for "her" the same way.

[Sometimes Steffi]

I'm a part time CD, and married. But if I lived alone, I imagine a two bedroom apartment. One bedroom is blue, and the other is pink. When my daughter notices (the pink one), I would tell her that I rent the second room out to flight attendants who are hardly ever there.

[alwayshave]

Viny, Orlando is a large metropolitan area. I would think your only issue is if one of your neighbors uses the same maid. Short of that, I don't think maids are posting on maidsoutingcrosdressers dot com. Therefore, if your maid knows does that mean someone that you care about would find out? Also, there is such a thing a confidentiality agreement that you could have the maid sign. Financial damages are a strong motivator not to out someone.

[MissTee]

My experience is housekeepers gossip. A lot. They don't get paid much, and most come from disadvantaged backgrounds. If you pay them well and treat them with the respect they deserve, they will embrace and defend you regardless of your lifestyle nuances. I have a team of 3 we use at the primary residence and they have been with us for quite some time. They are like family. Do they know? Probably, yet they are very wise in the ways of sustaining an income protecting those that are good to them. All that said, if you are worried about keeping a secret a secret, lock your stuff in a closet. You can always say you keep your guns locked up in there.

[NicoleScott]

Viny, if you want to hide your things, you should. The replies "don't hide" is not an answer to "how to hide"
It would a big mistake to ASSUME that hired hands, health care workers, law offices, etc. are professionals that can be trusted not to reveal things they shouldn't, even by law (HIPAA, for health information for example).
Take the responsibility for your own privacy. Lock it up. No explanations needed.

[Judith96a]

It's your house so just tell her which rooms do or do not need cleaning.

If you're concerned about her snooping in your closet, do the old James Bond trick of lightly sticking a hair across the opening so that you can tell if it's been disturbed and tell her firmly "no snooping in closets". If the hair is disturbed then fire her for cause!

Alternatively, simply make sure that you're around on the first occasion that she sees the content of you female closet ("accidentally" leaving the closet door open should do the trick!) and when she gives you "that look" simply tell her that the feminine frillies are yours, that it's nobody's business but yours and that you would appreciate her keeping it that way (and tip well!)

When I'm in a hotel I don't hide my clothes.

Too right sister! I hang 'em out in the closet where they belong. Makeup goes on the bathroom counter where it belongs too! The only things that stay locked in my suitcase are my breast forms! For all the chamber maid knows, my SO is staying too!

[donnalee]

It's none of her business, period.
Get a lock, use it 24/7 so you'll set a routine for yourself; keep any keys on your person or in an area not in your house that is only accessible with a different key, such as your car trunk. There are many kinds of locks available for sliding doors; it is also possible to have one that is remotely controlled, either by RF or ultrasound, if you do not wish the appearance of a lock.
There are areas in my home that I restrict access to; they are off limits to anyone not vetted by me. One thing you need to consider is not only how trustworthy anybody who comes into your home is, but how trustworthy anyone they might talk to is; once the information is out there, it cannot be recalled. Security is something that needs to become a habit to be effective.

[Stephanie47]

If you're really concerned I suggest displaying pictures of you and some photo shopped female around your home. It may give the impression a woman lives with you. Put them out before she arrives and remove after she goes. Also, you may want to invest in some larger suit bags with locks to store items that may be of a fetish nature. Keep the unmentionables (bras, panties and hosiery) in separate drawers from your male undergarments and socks.

[stephanie71]

Lock on the closet drawer. Keep your clothes in a dresser and keep it closed. Even better yet, perhaps she does not even care. Since I have been into dressing, when I have bought makeup just at regular stores, I end up in a fun conversation with the girl at the check out counter. I think that if you just appear to be a fun person, the cleaning lady probably will not care, or even be interested in your story.