Isha, actually I think I can agree with the predisposition idea. I just don't agree this disposition is necessarily about crossdressing. My H is pretty sure if it hadn't been crossdressing it would have been something else, depending on the circumstances. He's always been highly sensitive to his environment and had the situation been abusive or perhaps involved his mother disappearing instead of his father, who knows. Maybe he'd be into BDSM instead?. But his overall mental make up seems to require an 'out' so to speak, both sexually and as a self soothing technique. I have a child who is very similar to his father - not so that he's into crossdressing, but his overly sensitive mind will often turn him into a cartoon character when he's very stressed and I've had teachers tell me he spent all day as a robot or something. Is this the same as what my H went through? Who knows, though my H relates heavily to those anxious feelings my son suffers so there's definitely something innate causing them both to seek comfort in the identity of others.
Is this the only reason someone crossdresses?? Highly doubtful. I personally think there are as many reasons as there are men who do it - and maybe there's a common thread somewhere among you all. In the end, it won't matter much what we think as this is all just online waffle that will be lost in cyberspace come tomorrow. But at least we all cared enough to try and understand this crazy part of our lives.
