In my case, I opted to be honest with my first wife about it before getting married. She expected me to honor the relationship by totally abstaining. I was on board with this commitment. After all, she viewed it as a potential violation because my interest in it was and is, originally and primarily a sexual fetish. (although it has evolved somewhat). Unfortunately, as we all know, permanently quitting is next to impossible. So, eventually the relationship deteriorated to the point of a divorce. Though we blame incompatibility, cross dressing played a major part in the break up, because somehow she always knew whenever I had a "slip up". O well.
