...I'm about 5'10, 190 lbs, ... my mission now is to lose a good 40-50 pounds. ...
For some perspective, the average Tour de France rider falls into the 5'10" and 140 area. They have about 3% body fat. If you lost 30 pounds, you'd be really thin. Concentrate on your body fat percentage. if you get near 10%, you are really, really fit.
The crossdressing community is one that needs to stick together and continue to be there for each other for whatever one needs. We are always trying to improve the forum to better serve the crossdresser in all of us.