Quote Originally Posted by PaulaQ View Post
There are some really wonderful women here who are worth it - who really love and accept their CD spouse. Most, unfortunately, simply aren't worth it. Sorry, but that's how I see it. The transphobia inherent in so many in society affects a high percentage of our spouses. It's just not worth staying with someone who HATES a fundamental part of you, in my opinion.

I'm sorry this is such a negative sounding post - but there are just an awful lot of women who are transphobic, selfish, and self-entitled. (There are plenty of men who match such a description as well, but only a relatively small number of CDs here are in relationships with men.)

But if you think that's all so awful, be glad you aren't transsexual, and accused of selfishness for seeking what is often life saving medical care.
Paula I'm sorry your reveal went so badly but you really need to let the anger go. No woman can be expected to accept a TG spouse, especially when they feel blindsided far along into a marriage. In a perfect scenario they need to know early on in a relationship. Many of us think this will go away (TG/TS) but it just doesn't and that's the most important thing to know here. Most women get married to who they think are cismales or alphamales only to feel blindsided like I said. Nobody prepared them for this and it will take time to adjust if they ever can. Does it suck, you bet, but it's reality. Most cisgender people don't understand this because they see things as black & white, they see you as either male or female with no deviation from the norm. I'm looking at this objectively.