Outed twice, and probably a third time. Eeep!
Last Friday my daughter and I were out with two recently made friends. The lady of the couple was someone I have known on-line for about a year, and we share an interest in fursuit costume performing. Her male friend is her photographer, who doesn't do the costume performing himself, but who does go with the lady to a lot of activities where the costumed performing are being done.
My daughter and I finally had met in person with these two other people the weekend before last, at a furry convention where my daughter, this lady and I all wore our costumes as part of the con, and the lady found out that at least while wearing my fox costume, I sometimes dress like a female fox... Well, that's kind of common among mascot costume performers. The character for the costume we wear often doesn't match the person inside...
Well, last Friday we got together again. The photographer guy is an avid historic car mechanic, and he volunteers at a museum that has several functional Model T autos. The purpose of our getting together was to get a ride in a vintage 1912 Model T, while my daughter, the lady and I were in our fox costumes. We had a blast, and got lots of pictures of the foxes in the model T. We even took a drive into the nearby rural town. The only bad part was that it was pretty cold. Glad we were wearing a lot of fake fur costuming!
As the photographer and I packed up to leave, my daughter and the lady stayed warm in a trailer and chatted. I walked in on them and the lady was all grins and asked me, "So... you go out to a club pretty much every Saturday? Really?"
So okay... perhaps I should have asked exactly what my daughter had just told the lady. My daughter knows not to out me to random people. But my going to a club on Saturdays is me enjoying my girl time as Ceera... And honestly, from what I knew of this lady, I didn't care all that much if she knew I am a crossdresser. She lives in another state, and if it blew up it wouldn't matter that much. So I said, "Well, yes, I do. Like this..." And showed her a picture of me as Ceera, on my phone.
Well, turned out my daughter had only mentioned me clubbing, and didn't say how I dressed or presented. Oops! The lady was fine with it, fortunately. A bit surprised, but then she launched into how I really needed to chat with a gay friend of hers that she had briefly introduced me to the prior weekend, because he also loves going to clubs.
Having told her, I went ahead and told her photographer friend too, when he walked in and we were all laughing and making comments that would make no sense if he didn't know. I figured the lady would tell him anyway, and again, I guess I didn't care. He kind of shrugged when he saw the photo, and said half jokingly, "Okay, that's going to haunt me for a while...". But he was okay with it and we all went out to dinner and nothing more was said about it.
Awkward, but that part went well.
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The third case may be more problematic though, and I'm waiting for the other shoe to drop.
A while back I made a Facebook page for Ceera. I did it mostly because sometimes when I go to the club, I get asked if I'm on Facebook, so the people I meet can share selfies that they took at the club of us together. And I didn't want those pics in my regular male side Facebook stuff!
Well, all that was on that page was the name Ceera Murakami, a profile pic of me as Ceera, and the city and state I live in. No other personal or identifying data. And it identifies me as female.
But I made the mistake of doing a Friend link between that account and my real one, and some people do know I've used the name "Ceera Murakami" for a female on-line gaming character, and as a character in stories that I write...
One of those people is my best male friend. And today, Ceera got a Friend request from him!
After agonizing about what to do, I deleted the request rather than accepting it, and on my main account I un-friended my Ceera account, to prevent others from getting a "People you may know" suggestion from FB. Either my friend got one of those, or he saw the name in my friends list and got curious. I don't know yet.
I'm not out to that friend. He doesn't know I cross dress or that I'm Bi. But if he saw the profile pic on that FB page, there is no denying it is me.
I am hoping he will take it well, if he asks me about it and I tell him. He does role-play female characters on-line too, but I'm certain that is all he does in terms of gender bending. He knew I did some adult stuff in my on-line roleplay version of Ceera, and he didn't have any problems with that.
So... Wondering now how long it will be before he asks me what's going on...
