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[BilliG]

I am blessed with the ability to present in either gender quite convincingly. I would prefer to be 100% female but since I am married my wife has requested that I be present as her husband half the time. I am early in my transition and I feel for the sake of my daughter (10) and wife, that I should go slower. This has caused some problems though. Let me give an example:
We were on vacation recently. My wife met a lovely lady and her 10 year old daughter and struck up a friendship that lasted the week. I was on the beach in male presentation when I met her.
For the rest of the week my wife asked me to not come down to the beach in female presentation. I complied but it felt bad. I don't have an answer for "part time" transitions. It's quite easy if you are anonymous. I didn't want to make this lady and her daughter uncomfortable since it is their vacation too and my wife and daughter were enjoying thermselves. It would hard to explain and uncomfortable for everyone when you know someone.
I have so many questions. Anyone with experience?
For me it would be much easier to present 100% as female. I think it just makes me look like a very confused person to come down one day as male and the next as female. Even I am not comfortable doing it. How can I expect others to understand and be comfortable?
I wouldnt know how to begin explaining it.
Anyone else been at this stage? Suggestions?

I think it just takes practice and experimentation. The male voice is dynamic and is certainly able to reach the tones in female. I have a link which might be helpful: http://lena.kiev.ua/voice/

http://lena.kiev.ua/voice/

I have 2 questions, so I'll separate them for ease of answering.

As it's not been long since I've begun being open to both family and friends, I have troubles manipulating my voice to sound female (My voice isn't exactly deep either, but I can hear the difference when I talk to female friends). What did you do to help yourself get by this stage and what tips could you give me?

This one I have to be straight forward with. After transitioning and the healing process, how is sex? Was it better than your birth sex or equal or perhaps worse? Most youtube videos or information sites you can watch or read don't explain into this area (or not that I've found). Understandably, everybody is different so results would vary from person to person.