i think there is a quality of life issue related to whether you truly pass or not...
some are just blessed naturally, others are blessed financially and can pass..others are going to suffer misgendering quite alot.
CJenner has kind of highlighted to people that we exist, so it does make some sense that a person that doesn't really pass well gets noticed more.
there is no way around the fairness/unfairness of it. it is what it is...
i have been on both sides of the fence on this..i spent the first part of RLE totally not passing, and FFS changed that .....i wish FFS was paid for by insurance because personally i found it just as validating to me as SRS..
getting my femaleness reflected back at me socially was a boost to my life quality...i'm far from pretty but i am blessed to be gendered correctly.
Michelle i think what you are experiencing is a real thing... all you can do is consider how it impacts you and your goals in your transition... the ladies are right...it is very very very early for you... your appearance will very slowly adjust from just hrt and your ability to look the way you want will constantly improve bit by bit... as you consider your transition goals you must be realistic about everything if you want to feel good about the outcome..
some people have forfeited transition because they can't pass.. that's a huge shame ...it is understandable though if you feel you can't improve your quality of life to actually transition...
if you find this is on your mind, try to think of what really matters
is your quality of life better??
does passing/not passing change your quality of life?
yikes michelle...
i read your note is the other forum as feeling personally nervous because you were being misgendered recently but i have to say the way you brought it up here is so far off the mark i don't know what to think...
i couldn't disagree more with what you are saying, and its irrelevant anyway... Caitlyn gets to live her life just as much as anybody else