Fearful of going out? Here's why you should't be.

[bimini1]

That is a great read. The last time I went out I had the exact same experience. I mean I could have written down what you said damn near word for word. I only realized this when I looked back on it. At the time it was happening in real time for some reason (my mind) it was still nerve-rattling as hell. But the fact I was en femme was such a non issue it scared me that I was being lulled into a false sense of security.
Not unlike a basketball player that is so wide open when he took the shot or attempted the dunk it scared him into missing the shot lol.

[Jenniferathome]

...Btw... Nice outfit!

Thank you fashion Yoda!

...

"Hey that was a dude"
"yeah, but dang did you see IT'S legs!? Just saying"
"Whoa I didn't know you went that way"
"I don't but just sayin"
"Yeah maybee... want me to introduce you?"
"F*** You man"

LOL

...I'm NOT afraid of going out dressed. I just prefer NOT TO!

and that's fine. it a choice you make as opposed to thinking you can't!

II am wondering, how did you manage to remove hairs.
Kindly share your experience and provide guidelines.

Hi Jigna and welcome to the forum. I shave every day with a three blade razor. No magic to it. But it is everyday.

...I think the more I do it the more I will get weird looks or laughter but I think it's worth it in the end...

Bri, I think it will be the opposite. Your confidence will prevent weird looks. Really. If you don't care, no one else will.

... but one more reason... it's fun.

Absolutely Allisa! It is just fun.

... Even so, to some of us, that first step seems to be the size of the Grand Canyon. ...

I felt exactly the same and that's the rub, it's not the Grand Canyon. Stop thinking. Maybe meditation is the answer;-) I do not go out frequently. Maybe 10 to 15 times a year at most. I simply stopped thinking about "being out" and am just "out." No difference from guy mode, well... some differences ;-)

... But the fact I was en femme was such a non issue it scared me that I was being lulled into a false sense of security...

It's not false. The feeling you had bimini, is Nirvana for a cross dresser. Well done!

[Tracii G]

Very well stated Jennifer if you act normal people tend to go with the flow.
Today for me was pretty much like your story.
Went and played miniature golf with two friends of mine One is a GG and the other is her partner who is a MtF in transition.
Myself being a mix in between naturally in 50/50 mode, girls jeans and top hair in a ponytail blue earrings to match my blue toenails and sandals.
We played golf and enjoyed ourselves just as all the others around us.
We chatted and laughed when we missed shots with the other couples playing before us and behind us nobody seemed to be bothered by us at all and we all had a good time.
When we started the first hole the father and his family in front of us gave me a snide look so I just smiled and let it go.
After a few holes and him enjoying time with his family we were of no concern to him.
The thing is just be yourself smile have fun and be respectful to others around you thats the best way to represent.

[MonctonGirl]

Thanks for this post - it's motivational.
The first time I went out and was truly in public ( a mall ) I was with a young woman who did my makeup & hair expertly, so I felt good about my appearance and if anyone "made" me, she was there to offset any fear in the minds of other women ( eg in the washroom ) and act as a hedge against any confrontations from males.

My first time out alone, having done my own makeup, and obviously not the best job, I was dressed normally, acted normally, had my walk & movement down pat - but still was "made" by a male and a female ( both separately ) as soon as I stepped into the mall - so I turned around and left. lol

If I looked like you it would be much easier. But I did learn from the experience and it will be better next time! (Can hardly wait! )