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    Perceived As Female When Dressed As Male

    I sometimes get called "miss" when dressed as male,probably because I have long hair and long nails.Anybody else have this experience? (By the way I take it as a compliment!)

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    I occasionally get this because of my long hair. I just giggle to myself when that happens.

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    when im clean shaven i do,thats why i disguise myself by wearing a mustache

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    Been on hrt for about two years now and have hair past my shoulders that I wear in a pony tail when I have to dress male. I get can I help you ma'am all the time!

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    I get it more often than I used to, but I have long hair, earrings, and tend to dress a bit androgynously. It doesn't bother me in the least!

    People process their best guess at your gender early in the encounter and it takes quite a bit of contradictory information to make them change their subconscious minds. With me they see hair and purse and that says "female" to them.
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    I have been called "miss" a time or two. I was clean shaven, wearing earrings, women's eyeglasses and women's shorts. I can see why I was "miss"-taken. I loved it.

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    Since I have both ears pierced and wear some pretty diamond studs in each, I get some side ward glances at times when I'm out in drab. But this happens mostly when I'm freshly shaved, as I have a somewhat feminine look to my face when I do. Then, sometimes I let my beard grow out quite a bit (I actually find I get a really smooth shave when I do - great for those nights when I dress) and I see people looking at me occasionally with a rather puzzled look. Is he gay? A crossdresser? A whatever? (LOL).

    Anyway, I've decided to let my natural hair grow out, so I'm sure the looks will get more prominent in the future. Especially when I paint my toenails and wear sandals.

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    yes, i have very long hair, long nails and pierced ears also,
    and get called miss and ma'am a lot, it use to bother me
    but now i enjoy it and just smile...
    paula

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    I've been called "ma'am" a few times recently while in male mode. I'm not sure why, because I don't look particularly feminine without my wig. But I love it when it happens.

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    It's happened to me a few times in the past. I don't know if it would still happen because I no longer present as male. Maybe one day I will go out in guy mode just as an experiment.

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    With my bald head, broken nose and scars.... Not a chance.
    Call me Donna, please

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    I'm pretty beardy in boy mode, so that mistake doesn't tend to get made for me

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    Unfortunately, no... not a chance. Being tall, broad-shouldered, and having no hind-end doesn't lend itself to confusion in boy mode. Also, like Donna, I have been on the receiving end of an impromptu nose job. Lol
    You've got a good problem to have!!!

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    Not likely . . . still very guy. Perhaps as my hair grows out and my beard shadow lessens with laser but even then . . . not likely.

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    I tried once to pass as a male but failed and this was too a sales person whom I had done business with countless times lol.
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    The long hair often gets me ma'amed

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    Happens all the time. However, I do dress non-gender conforming, wear colorful nail art all the time and long drop earrings. So it has become expected.

    Richelle

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    I have long hair and painted nails, so I get called "ma'am" or "Miss" sometimes.
    I'm to the point where I occasionally get disappointed when someone calls me "sir"

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    I have been on M2F HRT for almost 4 years. I have D cup breasts and wide hips, along with long hair. So I get read as a woman a lot of the time. However, when I start talking, the feminine illusion disappears as when I talk I sound like a cross between Johnny Cash and Joe Friday of Dragnet. I do not want to alter the pitch of my speaking voice. And my singing voice is suited for the deep bass parts of Russian choral music.

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    Happened to me all the time when I was in my teens and 20's. I only wish I had the. We've to go out sees as a girl back then.

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    Once from behind and it was a thrill
    and another time just after a great makeup job.
    Otherwise not

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    When I was a teenager I had long hair. My friends and I where out late one night. A cop stopped near us and walked over to check on what we were doing. I got out of my friend's jeep, and the cop kept referring to me as ma'am when asking us questions. My friends made fun of me later, but secretly I loved it!

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    With my long hair, earrings in both ears, clean shaven face, hands and arms, longer nails with clear coat, ladies jeans, booties or sandals you would think I would get Maam'ed a lot but not really, I think others feel better to say nothing than insult me. Although it wouldn't.
    "you are a strange species and there are many out there;shall I tell you what I find beautiful about you ,you are at your best when things are at their worst" ...[ Starman]
    It may of course be a bit disturbing to sense that one is really not so firmly anchored to the gender one was born into.

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    This was kind of funny, and sometimes it depends on the situation or surroundings you are and what's expected. During the 2008 Presidental election I took my daughter and her friend to see Hiilary Clinton Speak at the nearby high school, thinking it would be historically important to do so. Well obviously there are a lot of people so they had shuttle buses and almost everyone on this shuttle bus was female, except for me. I was in totally guy mode, but with a long wool overcoat on, and I have really bushy somewhat long hair kind of like how that young Dorthy Hamill used to wear. I didn't think I looked female in the least, cept of course for the coat and hair. But got "Ma'am-Ed" by a cop because he just assumed I was female because I was on this women's bus to go see Hillary - made me laugh because I don't think he realized I was a guy period, even after he said it then saw me front on. Funny when stuff happens like that when we try so hard to pass, then fail at it.
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