Yes, I think there is no definitive answer, because we each have our own answers. One size does not fit all! There is no "one true way".
My own style is subdued, because I don't like to call attention to myself in any mode. That's just part of who I am. Other people don't mind the spotlight, and some crave it. Nothing wrong with that. Variety is the spice of life and all that. :D
