This thread is not about personal reasons for telling or not telling a partner that you are CD / TG / TS. It is intended as a philosophical discussion regarding the concept of telling or not telling.
It is my personal belief that one should always tell a partner if you are CD / TG (really, TS should be a no-brainer). A partner, once told, may take one of many paths. They may choose to no longer continue the relationship, they may choose to stay in the relationship but wish to have no further knowledge of CD / TG activities, they may choose to learn, accept and some even embrace their partners CD / TGism. For any given relationship any one of these choices can occur and may be the best choice for that relationship. The point is, the partner gets to CHOOSE. By not telling a partner, the partner is denied that choice. Fundamentally, one is denying the partner their freedom of choice. Philosophically I have a problem with anything that denies a partner, male or female, of their freedom of choice. Hence why I believe that telling a partner is always the right thing to do, irrespective of whether the result is "good" or "bad".
Alright, Go for it.