Attacking and Challenging Members - Fair Game or Not?

[sarahcsc]

Sara, there is a place for the desires of the heart (what I interpret from your "dreams and fantasies".). I doubt this is the place to indulge that (if you'll excuse the term). My guess is that the forum would quickly be overwhelmed with posers to the point of being completely unusable.

There is a place called "youtube" where people upload detailed descriptions of their dreams and fantasies. It attracts other people with similiar dreams and fantasies which expands on the original idea. Youtube is still very usable as far as I know and people have gone on to realize their dreams.

But you raised a good point.

What is the purpose of this forum then? Is it to slap people in the face with a hit of reality? Or is it to nurture one's dreams and fantasies so that they may one day take the leap?

Maybe this entire forum should just be divided into TWO sections, "reality" and "fantasy".

But say we did. Ask yourself what kind of dreams and fantasies have you seen presented here? How often have they had any correlation to real life, been substituting for action, or present other conflicts? You can answer that for yourself.

Dreams and fantasies, in its strictest sense, should not have any correlation with real life.

The question is, do you allow that here in the forum?

I can't say this on behalf of everybody, but everything that I am today in real life, is one way or another related to my fantasies.

Okay, so I'm not the first officer of the USS Enterprise, neither am I Vulcan or Betazoid, but I've spent a great deal of my time travelling and exploring places others would never dream to go and my job consists of being empathetic and logical at the same. Do you understand this analogy?

I went to a hair transplant surgeon today for a consult. This is a HUGE issue for me. I didn't get the answers I expected on several topics. I was told quite directly what my best options were and why. He might have indulged my fantasies (desires?) for other answers, but what would that have served? It would have set me up for a worse disappointment later, as well as additional expense.

Your surgeon tells you both sides of the story, that is, "hair transplant could restore some of your hair", but the "hair restored is most likely to be modest and it could potentially fail".

This is merely a fact he tells you, you decide if that panders to your fantasies or not. If you chose to focus on the fact that it could "restore your hair", then you are pandering to your fantasies. If you chose to focus on the fact that the "hair restored is modest and could potentially fail", then you are pandering to your need for reality.

It has nothing to do with the surgeon if he was indulging your fantasies or not. People do that for themselves.

Love,
S