They used to tell me if one or the other was wearing "panties" it wasn't gay.
In actuality, that makes as much sense as the Latino thing about being a top. It's funny the lengths that we will go through in order to shield ourselves from reality.
The crossdressing community is one that needs to stick together and continue to be there for each other for whatever one needs. We are always trying to improve the forum to better serve the crossdresser in all of us.