getting "all emotional"

[pamela7]

has anyone else experienced this normally stereotypically female "getting all emotional for no apparent reason"?

I ask because since I've been cross-dressing this happens quite regularly, wondered if we experience the fuller range of human emotions and their consequences by embracing our femme side.

[JocelynJames]

Yes, and I would not doubt your theory being correct. Men are usually taught to be macho, especially if their male role model was old school(like my dad,RIP) I had five brothers and was always "sensitive" -go figure

[Chriscrossed]

No, not yet but I hope to unlearn how to be so even tempered someday. The world needs me to be more vocal and irrational.

[Princess Chantal]

No, I am sure the reason possibly being that I treat my crossdressing quite different than you.

[Krisi]

Strapping on a pair of boobs and a wig cannot change who you are or change your emotions. You are the same person and have the same emotions. You may be fooling yourself into thinking you now have female emotions but you don't.

[Kate Simmons]

When I finally cut loose all of my feelings which I had suppressed most of my life they came pouring out like trying to drink from a fire hydrant.Now I manage them pretty well after accepting them.

[pamela7]

thanks Krisi, i didn't say that, i said "fuller range", as i rarely wig/boob-up that's not relevant to me. Sounds like our realities are quite different.

[claire1d]

Embracing my femininity certainly changes my emotional state.

I don't think that it changes how I process emotions in my brain at a hormonal level but it helps express and release a "fuller range" of emotions that I always had in me but did not express or embrace otherwise.

[Cheryl_Layton]

Pamela, what emotions are we talking about expressing? More weepy?, More short-tempered? More touchy?

I’m with Krisi here. We cannot change what we are naturally. What I would say is that I’m able to discuss myself more openly with people due to simple maturity, growing-up and acquiring knowledge through life’s experiences.

Men are notoriously bad at opening up about themselves, especially to those closest to them. If, by embracing our feminine side, we are more open about ourselves and become people that are easier to be with, then that can’t be a bad thing.

Oh, I should add that I have become more tearful as I've got older (the Royal Wedding was a good example) but this happened when I wasn't actively dressing so I don't necessarily link the two.

[Christie ann]

Pamela, I can totally relate although it's probably less about cross dressing and more about who I am. I find as I grow older I cry more especially those heart tuggers that some body links to. You know, you hit the link, start watching and then try as hard as you can not to tear up especially when around others.

[pamela7]

i'l clarify, clearly its needed. I started to CD in January this year. Back in 2001 I had an awakening experience that opened me up to a huge emotional range and sensitivity, from being a dissociated engineer. Before then, yes i'd get teary in those films but suppress it. Since then I've been calm, stable, aware of emotions, largely unaffected though. I had the experience of putting words to sensations as a 40-year old - quite something.

Since the CD i'm still mostly calm and stable, and sometimes i get a feeling that i call "tired and emotional", no its not irritable, its not angry, it's sad perhaps, weepy perhaps if those labels help, more like less coping, less functional. I also get the wonderful pluses of the dressing feelings, just asking here though about if CD'ing has opened anyone else to another range of emotions, sounds so far like not really.

[Anne K]

Pamela, what CD does for me is help me focus on being more attentive and relaxed. This has entered my life as a GM or CD. I suppose I could try and analyze why, but why waste the time. If I am a better person, that's what counts.

[Katey888]

Pamela, you do seem to be in a bit of a niche among us, as does the nature of your CD development... nothing wrong with that - I often try to make the point that there's no one way to do this and we're all completely unique in the way that our individual motivations, emotions and circumstances drive us. I didn't think you meant that just by dressing it changes our emotional response - but dressing is an act of expressing something feminine, so perhaps it makes it easier for you to also express emotions and feelings that you'd consider inappropriate (or non-stereotypical) for a man..? I haven't experienced females "getting all emotional for no apparent reason" - and while there can be times when everyone's reaction can be unpredictable, it does seem more so when fluctuating hormones are involved.

Your second post seems a bit more revealing - but I wonder if what it reveals is more about who you were before starting "the CD" and issues that are unrelated to gender...?

:2c:

Katey x

[Gabby6790]

I have been wondering this myself. Its not just when I am dressing but all the time. I find myself more emotional than a "male" should be.

I often get teary eyed at those sappy TV shows and have to hide it from my SO who seems to be having no problem at all.

I have often wondered is this is an example of me being further over on the gender scale?

[laura.lapinski]

Some people are more sensitive than others, and that is not bad or good, right or wrong. Clothes will not make a difference in the long run. Perhaps, clothes can sometimes temporarily change you, or slightly alter you, in that if you are living your authentic self, you will tend to let the real You come out. I do think that hormones, if you have or are taking those, can change your moods, but I don't have any direct experience with them. I am an INFJ, so yes, I am a bit more sensitive. I have had times where because of depression and such, and I could be more sensitive than others, but thankfully, I am doing well right now.

[Beverley Sims]

When I was taking hormones years ago, yes.

[fiona frisson]

Im aligned with that observation by gabby about my own capacity to cry at tearjerkers more so maybe than my so.i can readily do so with music theunisses 'meditation' or even 'ave maria'! ... we're a motley crew here but for me my sensitivity is somehow naturally part of my cd self

[AngelaYVR]

Physical emotional responses can just be a way for your body to process internal issues, like a relief valve. I'm guessing that you are now allowing yourself to do this rather than repressing it. As long as it is manageable then it is healthy and most likely is something that will diminish with time. I was always more emotional than most, drove my eldest brother crazy.

[Tracii G]

Not sure about the cry for no reason thing.
If I cry there is a reason.

[Candice June Lee]

I have always been emotional. Crying for no apparent reason in the make since of the world. Even my wife laughs at me. There are somethings i am not emotional over. But i can hear a song or see a part in a movie and get all emotional over it. Been this way all my life. Maybe i am a girl inside, lol.

[Natasha V]

Is this a support group or a hate group because your just being mean. Don't be so narrow minded if someone says they are a girl I will respect that.

[Sarah-RT]

I find myself becoming sad when watching certain things when I would normally be steely eyed, why, I don't know but perhaps because I'm not worried about appearing "feminine" anymore, just worried about my eyeliner running

[Saikotsu]

I'm pretty emotional regardless of whether I'm en femme or not, that's just part of who I am. That said, I don't get all weepy or cry easily. But I'm not afraid to express how I'm feeling either.

If anything, that comes from my masculine side. Why should I repress my feelings? I'm a human being, these emotions come part and parcel with that. I'm not going to compromise who I am just because it's not "manly".

[Tina_gm]

I would say that I am a very "emotionally" based person, but I do not have a lot of emotions, especially crying that I show much. In fact my wife has often said I tend to be a cold hearted *******. But not really so. I am extremely in tune to emotion. I rarely show a lot of negative emotion though, or sadness, crying etc etc. It could probably be from my youth, and the whole boys don't cry kinda thing, IDK, but crying is something I have done a very rare amount of my entire life. Cding has not changed this aspect of me at all, not that I have really tried to change it. I am who I am.

[CynthiaD]

I've always been extremely emotional. But I learned to suppress it so I could appear more masculine. Once I accepted my femininity, I stopped trying to suppress it so much. I remember the first time I just let myself cry at a sad movie. I sat there with tears running down my face, feeling incredibly proud to just let myself be me.