GG here, I'm in a LTR, with my SO who crossdresses, I have extremely strong feelings that it's more than just crossdressing though and think trans is a possibility. He's NOT a talker though. The reasons I think this though are as follows:
- At one point he stopped only dressing for fetish purposes, and began to dress simply to bed to go to sleep
- We had some trust issues for a bit and I would check his phone (This has been resolved and worked past, and I respect his privacy now) but during this time he had told a friend that he hates how hes seen, how much he feels comfortable en femme, etc. and ultimately a text saying "I want to be a girl"
- He no longer talks to that friend at my request (lines were crossed, hence the issues, which again have been resolved) but while working through that stuff, I had said why dont you talk about that stuff with me? or trust me to be open to? His response was I can't talk about that stuff because I want to spend my life with you and you would leave me if I told you whats going on with me
- He came home drunk one evening and told me he wished he had boobs.
His one of those people the pushes emotions down, and we're young, only twenty, so hes still trying to figure this stuff out, but I really want to help. He's my best friend, and we've been together for almost 5.5 years. We have a child together and want a future, I want him to trust me. If he woke up and decided living as a women, and transition would make him happy I would be right there. I've been nothing but accepting and I'm not heterosexual, so it's not like I'd have an issue being in a lesbian relationship.
I can see the toll it's all taking on him, his anxiety is so high, hes very depressed, I'm really worried. I don't want him to force himself to be alone throughout this. What can I do??