Have you been with a guy?

[Krisi]

Krisi, it's more complicated than that. Someone who is "straight" may have fantasies, or be willing to try having sex with a male, but none of that would make you gay, just bi or bi curious. I'm sure your wife would be able to see that, or you could explain it to her.

No, I could not explain to my wife that I wanted to have sex with a man. Or why some other supposedly straight male would want to have sex with a man simply because he strapped on a pair of boobs and a wig. He would still be a male having sex with another male. The strap on boobs and wig don't change anything. And if he was married or in a committed relationship, that would be cheating just the same as if he had sex with a woman.

It almost seems like you are saying that being bisexual is somehow less deviant than being gay. Like you are trying to defend it.