Why lie to your SO/wife?

[Marcelle]

Yes . . . it must be lonely living among the perfect beings of the universe.

I say it again folks . .. have your point of view, live by it, own it, espouse the benefit of it as it applies to you but, never assume to think your way is the right/only way . . . smacks of arrogance. We all make decision in life and guess what . . . they are ours to make not anyone else's'. Will other people get hurt? Probably but that is for the person to wrestle with . . . their demons to fight. We are not the guardians of perfection and doubt anyone of us can say we are leading a perfect and righteous life in which nobody gets hurt. Some choose to come out to SOs. I came out to my wife when I first gravitated here as CD and found support and love early. When I announced I was TS, she stayed with me. Does that mean it is going to all unicorns and chocolate cake for everyone? No, it can go really bad.

So for those trying to shame others into your way of thinking, how will you feel should someone take your advice, it goes bad and that person does something drastic to themselves or those around them. Right . . . you won't care because we probably will never know about it but, you can rest on your morality laurels and continue playing cards with goddesses of the universe and other perfect beings. Now before you say "Oh come on, that has never happened and you are being dramatic!" Am I . . . pick up the newspaper and you will find that when people have everything and it is suddenly ripped away from them, they are capable of doing very bad things in desperation. Yes, you can argue the SO might find out eventually or perhaps she/he will not. If the person can manage it, hurts nobody (it is just clothes right?) and continues to be a loving and caring partner, parent, person . . . what difference does it make if they like to dress pretty from time to time? You all seem to equate dressing as a woman as something of shame/guilt/perversion what an SO should know about because why . . . not manly enough for you. The stigma runs deep doesn't it?

Cheers

Marcelle