As always, Georgette, it is the most controversial and disputed views that get the biggest media coverage. Yes, TERFs do exist (Trans Exclusionary Radical Feminists), and it all makes for a good academic debate. Even they define themselves as "radical" which by definition means "extreme" (not the norm). But if you look around at all the women who have made a success of their careers, who do make their own financial decisions, who do see themselves as not subservient to men and not their sex objects, etc, they do not share those views.
You also make a reference to feminism associated with masculinity. lol. If this were true, then it would surely be called "masculinism"?
Just because women are powerful does not mean they are not women, in any any sense of that word. To take women's accomplishments and the way they refuse to bow down to outdated macho views (with their ways to look at women as little girls or sex objects) and attribute this to being "masculine" is rather misogynistic.
<edit> Re your last paragraph, you can wear what you want. My comments are very general. If I have a multi-colored scarf with the color pink in it, does this mean that I am portraying myself as a little girl or a sex object? No.![]()