I don't think that most women want to look like the models. At all. We know we are different from the women we see in the catalogs. They're just mannequins. Don't forget, as women we don't find them attractive the way that men do. So over time we each develop our likes and dislikes, or a sense of what looks good on us given our body types and what we want that item for. So when we look online or in catalogs, there might be only a few things that appeal to our personal tastes and needs. It really has nothing to do with how the model looks since there are pages and pages of gorgeous clothes these same models wear, that a woman wouldn't buy because it isn't what she's after. For example I'm going on a trip and was looking for a knee length, black duster cardigan, something I can wear over jeans, skirts, leggings, as a beach cover-up, etc. I scoured the net until I found one at my price. My search was for something specific and the way the models looked in the dozens of dusters I saw had nothing to do with it. I saw many gorgeous dusters, all sorts of colors and fabrics, but none except the black one would do, no matter how attractive the models wearing them, because they weren't versatile enough for the clothes I plan to bring (one pair of jeans, one pair of khakis, one long skirt, 3 loose tops, a head scarf, underwear and a bathing suit).Originally Posted by sarah7391
So, back to the thread topic:
Your point about not wanting to be the girl - maybe "be the girl" is only one way of putting it and "being triggered" is another. Over my years here there have been many threads and many posts from CDers who said they felt triggered by attractive women who were dressed in clothing that appealed to them (whatever those styles may be). Some people have put it this way as well, "I wanted to be her more than be with her". This sentiment really is common in this forum although of course it doesn't apply to everyone. And so my question was mostly to the CDers who do feel this way ... I wanted to know if they would feel a similar trigger when encountering quite an ordinary girl who isn't dressed in appealing clothes, like the ones I described in my OP.
