Why is it derogatory? Because, many males view women as weak and inferior. That's the worst insult they can hurl, saying you are "like a woman". But, I like women.
Why is it derogatory? Because, many males view women as weak and inferior. That's the worst insult they can hurl, saying you are "like a woman". But, I like women.
There is a big difference between using the word ourselves and being called a "Sissy" by others - in the same way as other "communities" have reclaimed the use of derogatory names they have been called in the past that have become taboo for the rest of us.
I just replied to a different thread about "how girly are you?" - within this Group it is not an insult.
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To me it is a terrible word.
I always thought that it meant an effeminate boy or man.
But when dressed I am a mature woman called Martha. I look, dress and act like a woman..
I am not an effeminate man in a dress - I am a real woman called Martha.
It's a very terrible word.
Sissy what a term, ok I'll throw in my 2 cents, am I a Sissy? I dont think I am. I grew up in a house where my Mother never quit, she worked hard, always tried and still does, My Dad, threw in the towel repeatedly, so you tell me who is more important to me? I see women as strong, beautiful creatures with a lot of advantages in this world, is it envy? Maybe it is. Just like the old saying, imitation is the most sincere form of flattery, I got scoffed at by the ex when I said that.
Sissy by definition - Merriam Webster a boy who is weak or who likes things that girls usually like
: a person who is weak and fearful, an effeminate man or boy; also : a timid or cowardly person
sissy adjective
Ok maybe I am at least partly, lol I do like things girls like, am I weak, definitely NO, what do I fear? losing my friends or my job because of this, other than that, I feel confident in saying Im not afraid anymore. Effeminate, maybe in appearance at times, wearing the clothes, I am happy, Depending on what I wear is relative to the feeling I get, when I go out, I feel good, I feel "man pretty" I do get looked at, I like it, do I feel humiliated? Nope. If a girl can say "tell him Im single and ready to mingle" how bad do I look? Id say I look pretty good,. I feel confident also, just to elaborate on my look, girl jeans, plain pocket, button down shirts, like french cuff,Sometimes I mix with a nice mens T shirt. I have a nice Guess Leather jacket I wear if its cool enough, usually wear womens belt of some type or another, ladies puma shoes or I have Guess western boots I wear out. Am I weak? maybe not as strong as some but I wont take a butt kicking just doing nothing, back me in a corner and yes your going to have a fight on your hands.
So for the record, If Im a sissy is it a bad term? maybe not so much, it implies weakness I think anyone here would argue whether their weak or not. BTW I also have a closet full of Dresses and other nice womens clothes, a drawer full of lingerie and today I can say Im happy being me!
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Mykaa's post makes sense to me. I think of myself as weak sissy in the sense that I most definitely do not want to be a macho male type. 🌺
Fiona is quite right. Going by Mykaa's post I'm practically the definition of a sissy. I'm not really afraid to admit it, but I'm not going to just take on the label either.
A boy who is physically weak and likes things that girls usually like? Check. An effeminate male? Check. Timid? In a more masculine situation I'd say so, although mentally I'm actually quite a capable mind in terms of personality atleast. I'd definitely say I'm at the very least partly a sissy as described in that comment. It's just who I am right now, I'm not in love with the negative connotations of the word sure but I'm not going to deny who I am. I like who I am, and I'm not going to change myself because of a name or the thoughts of other people.
I couldn't even get past the sentence fragments, murderous grammar and non sequiturs.
As as for the topic, "sissy" is clearly a pejorative term and can't be debated. It simply has a meaning in the english language. Those that use it here seem to embrace the negative aspects of it: humiliation, forced feminization, etc. whatever floats your boat, I guess
I don't like the word... in fact, I hate it. And although the dictionary definition of the word may aptly describe many of the MtF CD members of this forum there is a very negative connotation to the word "sissy" that does not apply to me nor, I'm sure, to others like Robin, Tracii and Jennifer.
I like feeling feminine. Using makeup, female clothing, etc helps me feel feminine. I am very short and compared to other males I am probably weaker than a large majority of them. By definition the word sissy might apply to me. But the connotation does not apply at all. Like most men AND women with any sense of self worth and self esteem, I don't shy away from hard work or "getting my hands dirty" so to say. I am not submissive nor is Sayyidah. I get in the mix with my wife cleaning the kitchen, doing laundry and raising our kids, which until relatively recently was considered a gender role reserved for females.
I don't buy into the notion that if a community has co-opted the word as a way to embrace it, the word is somehow positive. The "N" word is still a disgusting word no matter who is saying it. I think the same thing of "sissy".
But hey... if that's your thing, go on with ya bad self. I'm just not going to approve or like it.
I am not a woman nor am I a man... I am an enby. Hi, I am Wren.
Well, for me, the term "Sissy"has overtones of being submissive, subjecting oneself to the whims of a woman, being sub-dominant. And if that is what you like, how you see yourself - then have fun. What I detest i the term being bandied about in a purely perjorative sense.
If you always do what you always did, you'll always get what you always got!
I'm not gonna be insulted by being called a sissy.
My wife and boyfriend would probably high-five you. I *am* a 'sissy', whatever that means. (*He* might have his own kinky reasons, my girl just wants ME.)
To Me, anyway, that means being an XY and actively wanting to exhibit as an XX.
I don't have the slightest hope of even LOOKING like an XX, but that is what I feel like. I am indisputably, genetically XY, I'm 6'2", 280, built like a wedge.. i"m HUGE. But that isn't how I FEEL.
I have better fashion sense, better color sense, better *cute* sense.
I guess the 'trucknutz' on my Prius should be pink and sequined? Maybe a bow?
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I would definitely consider it to be an insult to be called a "Sissy." Its current usage is prevalent as a porn industry term used to describe a Gay man who dresses up in women's clothes and is sexually promiscuous with dominant males, or dominatrix females. It seems to be often used in conjunction with "Black on White" sites, Cuckold sites, and Femdom sites.
Like many other words, it has morphed from the meaning it had in the 1950's and 1960's when it merely meant a man who was mild-mannered, tried to avoid contact sports, didn't like off-color jokes, and maybe wore a pink shirt to work occasionally. I recall that my uncle, who was an all-state football player and track star, and WW II combat veteran, once used the term to say that he knew Mr. X, a proment local attorney when he was in high school, and that he was a bit of a "Silk pants sissy" then. When I asked him what he meant by that term, he told me that, " A Sissy is a guy who was circumcised with pinking shears." Sort of funny in a crude locker room sort of way, but it did not connote homosexuality or even effeminacy, merely that the person so described was not a "Manly Man."
I appreciate every ones comments and outlook on the subject.
Members feel safe here in a way they can't feel safe anywhere else...which is entirely the point of the site. We can call ourselves things we would never call ourselves in the big bad world.
Being raised male means, for 99.9% of us, being the opposite of a sissy. No wonder some choose to use the word in their usernames.
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i remembered it meant you where weak,feminine and not strong ,manly and decisive.
Arnold swarzanegger called someone a "girlyman'. this shows it can be a put down term in some social cliques. it others it might be desired.
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Starrofdelite defined the current slang very well in post 36. I've come across sissies on other sites that say they're proud to be a sissies. It doesn't make sense to me to be proud of being promiscuous and submissive (etc.), but if that's what they want out of life it's their choice.
"You're the only one to see the changes you take yourself through", Stevie Wonder
The meaning of a word doesn't change once it has a deffinition.
If I were new to a site and some guy asks me to be his "sissy bitch"or something like that yes I will be offended.
I am not promiscuous and don't appreciate being talked down to like I am worthless.
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Humm What an interesting thread... I have seen this brought up here before. I guess we all have our reasons why...
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I don't think any of the usual derogatory terms typically applied to us offend me. I think it's rude and in poor taste for anybody to call a person anything when it's intended to offend or degrade. But, I can go down this list of the common insulting terms and see that, in my case, their probably not far off. Sissy, pussy, gay, fag, homo, fairy... going to have to go further than that to really offend me. I've gotten to the point to where I quietly have a "glad you noticed" attitude toward this one. I don't like that someone would throw that out there, because the obvious thought behind it is that I'm a piece of human debris, but, consider the source. Sticks and stones, ya know.
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I am not a fan of the word either, but do respect the use of the word when defining a lifestyle. That being said, I have to disagree with you about meanings of words not changing. Well actually, the established meanings may not change, but new meanings get added all the time, meaning to me that, first, words can have multiple meanings, and new meanings can get added to the original ones as our language usage changes over time. Look at the words "shit" ". They have their original meanings plus about a thousand other ones depending on how used, tone of voice and new fads, whether they last or not. Those two words can be used to describe something, used derogatorily, humorously, and even as slang terms of endearment. They can be used as nouns, adjectives or verbs!
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I've worked too long, too hard, and lost too much of my life to self loathing in good part due to words like sissy, so no I don't and will not accept it being used on me. If you're into a scene where you enjoy the word, love little Alice in Wonderland dresses, and get enjoyment from verbal abuse based on being some sort of "pecious little sissy boy" that's cool, live your life, don't expect me to embrace what you're into.
I love the Daniel Day Lewis "Last of the Mohecans" this is from memory but "Do not try to understand them, and do not try to make them understand you, for they are a people apart, and their ways make no sense" - Hawkeye commeting on the being raised by Lenai Lenape people rather that whites. Pretty good advise for dealing with others as near as I can tell.
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i like being called a sissy....it makes me feel both feminen and submissive , which is what i am.......in fact i believe that a good definintion of sissy would be a "feminen submissive male"
Perhaps this is a sexual question?
I'm too lost in the weeds to get this alphabet soup out of my hair.
I REALLY like doing my thing for my partner, but that is not what I think you were asking.
Once again, I'm seeing a big red line between LGB and T. They kind of have nothing to do with each other.
Cripes, why did it take so long for us to figure that out??
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I am talking about one word here Allie sissy.
Vulgar slang is very different so not really the same thing.
I will say that using the F word in the context of placing "as ****" at the end of a sentence has got the be the dumbest thing I have ever heard.
Its like the person that says it has no idea of the meaning of the word.
Language is constantly changing. New words are coined every year and slang changes or adds meanings too. That's why I dislike slang. The slang we used 40 years ago now sounds very dated and "uncool".
And I would think that kids aren't using the word sissy in it's older definition now days. Even Wuss is now an old term.
"You're the only one to see the changes you take yourself through", Stevie Wonder