The point is well taken, but I think unnecessarily hostile to be honest.
We trade pleasentries on this forum for the most part (i.e. "your new sweater looks fabulous!" ... that means I like your new sweater and thanks for posting a pic of it to share, not that I literally think it's so fabulous, you must have stolen it from the lost tomb of Libarace")
In a similar way, we sometimes read accounts of SO's engaging in amazing random acts of acceptance or support. Going out to diner/show/vacation/whatever dressed, or buying us special gifts that tell.us we are extraordinarily accepted by an extraordinary partner.
In these cases, what should we say? I get that "you have an amazing SO, do something nice for her", can come off a little patronizing, but I seriously doubt that's ever the intent. The intent is to express that the SO is indeed amazing, while at the same time congratulating the member on such an awesome experience".
Saying "your SO is special and you should do something special for her" doesn't come with an implied "but just this once because she did something nice for you" - what kind of awful person would I have to be for that to be true? Moreover, why does your wife think I'm that kind of awful person ??!
