"Are you a woman!"

[ChristinaK]

I just wanted to clarify a few things.

1. I was on a long trip, am middle aged with a small bladder. No choice on using a bathroom unless I go in a bottle (not).
2. Even if a person is a CD versus TG, using the men's room in the US would be dangerous beyond belief in most locales.
3. I could not avoid the woman as I had already waited before exiting the stall until the woman's friend left to leave after a conversation they had at length about drinking the night before and how one had sneaked rye into her husbands beer to make him pass out so she could have fun without him.
4. I totally understand how a woman would be freaked out and afraid upon discovering some weird dude is dressed as a woman exiting a stall. I just don't want to be the subject of that anxiety and would hope that the woman in question would have the circumspection to wait and see what transpired with the TG, such as washing her hands and leaving like any other woman.
5. Regardless of the law, muggles will not understand. It is beyond most peoples imaginations to consider us equals, to wit, my sister wishing a TG to be dead rather than be subjected to looking at her.
6. In my lifetime, we will always be at risk simply needing to use the frikkin bathroom, whether we have the balls to use the men's room, or try to pass in the women's.
7. I don't judge muggles for the way they feel, it is a natural inclination. We have to accept that we run against the natural grain of society and the burden is on us, not society, to deal with the possible consequences.

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I forgot. One person said they do not use the ladies room if there are little girls or teenagers present. How do you know until you open the door and walk in?

2 weeks ago I was presented with that dilemma when I entered to find a line, with 2 teenagers in front of me with Momma in front of them. To turn and walk out would have been suspicious. I was scared, but nothing at all happened. Sometimes we cannot control events, they develop.

[PaulaQ]

We have to accept that we run against the natural grain of society and the burden is on us, not society, to deal with the possible consequences.

Why should we accept this? We are the victims of a cruel and abusive society. Why should we be expected to deal with it - more to the point how could that even work. Why then should we expect any rights at all, and simply accept that they don't like us, don't really think of us as human beings, and that they could murder us on sight if they are so inclined? Why expect anything from them?

No advances in civil rights have ever come from the minority group "dealing with it," is accepting the status quo.