Quote Originally Posted by flatlander_48 View Post
You seem to subscribe to the binary construct, so explain this. I am not a Crossdresser and don't have enough dysphoria to consider transitioning.
Binary? Well there's only two choices on a birth certificate so that's kind of what we all deal with, subscription or not.

If you are a man with a male name and identity and you wear women's clothes for the express purpose of changing your appearance than you are by definition a cross dresser. I don't understand your insistence that you're not. The very fact that you assign any value at all to dressing like a woman pretty much makes the argument that you are indeed a cross dresser, and there's nothing wrong with that. I don't personally understand the power of the panties, but that's none of my business.

Gender queer folks don't have two names, they aren't closeted to any degree.


I would posit that those who Crossdress and eventually transition were never really Crossdressers to begin with.
well that's not exactly a groundbreaking position, ..and it also directly contradicts your spectrum argument


That sounds very dismissive. Was that your intent?
Well, I don't know that 'dismissive' is pejorative in that sense. Do CD's play dress up or not? I know when I first discovered cross dressing back in 2008/09 I was absolutely playing dress up. It was great fun for about a year until suddenly it wasn't fun anymore. The realization that I was escaping my life by playing dress up and pretending to be someone else hit me like a ton of bricks. So I faced my demons and stopped cross dressing. A few months later I was seeing a therapist.

Cross dressing dudes have a gender problem for sure. I don't know what it is, I don't pretend to understand it, but they are definitely on some kind of spectrum. TS (the way we define it here) people are definitely binary in their feelings. When I was a little boy who wanted to be a little girl, those feelings did not manifest in wearing mom's clothes. Maybe if my sister would have been 2 years older instead of 2 years younger things would have been different. I don't really care. The point is, I thought Pinocchio was crazy for wanting to be a boy. I didn't wish to be somewhere in the middle, I wished I was a girl. I knew my body didn't match the other girls, it never occurred to me that my clothes were part of the problem.