Crossdressing v Transgender

[flatlander_48]

The thing is, if gender is ones INTERNAL interpretation and not trying to fit some EXTERNAL construct, I don't see why there cannot be variation.

I would not describe how I feel beyond non-binary. To my interpretation, I am not a Crossdresser, neither am I a Transsexual. I think anything beyond saying non-binary gets into very fine distinctions that may be only useful for clinicians. The only other thing that I would add is that I have no sense of fluidity. My persona is a relatively stable combination of male and female. That has not changed and is certainly not tied to presentation.

I won't duplicate what I've written in other messages on these 2 pages, but I will add this. What I remember early on was the lack of hesitation, shame and guilt. Somewhere above I said that the shame and guilt I had could be measured in minutes and likely single digits at that. About that time I ran across posts about people having serious issues with shame and guilt and how some never really got over that after years. So, that was my first clue that this sat in a very different place for me. Later on I came to realize that how I thought and what I did was VERY different from what Crossdressers here have written. The second paragraph in Post #37 lists differences that came to me quickly, so there may be a few more. To me, there are just too many things that are distinctly different.

Also, I believe the concept of bisexuality is a good parallel in the sense that it is an internal interpretation of ones sexual attractions. There is strong homosexual preference, weak homosexual preference and equal preference in regards to a gross description. All represent a combination. For example, if you have a strong homosexual preference, there is a weak heterosexual preference. Equal implies an even split between homosexual and heterosexual preferences. And, there are many incremental points along the way. I understand this as I am also bisexual. To me it is about variation and not absolutes.

DeeAnn