Paula Q,
I'm not just talking about gender orientation here and what I've chosen to do in regards to that doesn't make what I've said any less true... and where do I even begin with what you've written. First of all you are obviously making assumptions about me, you're basically saying I somehow lack problems because I'm not out?
I am conscious but if I cared, as I have done in the past, about what some people think or even say I wouldn't look or dress the way I do now. It's been a problem for me, and in many ways it still is but I refuse to allow it to personally affect me anymore. I also understand and accept that it's problematic for others, of course I do, I've been through my own hard times.
What you've put in "2." is actually the type of stuff I've been talking about here. Other people have different opinions and that angers you, different opinions being water, your armor being cardboard, just accept it, they think differently. Don't let other peoples opinions upset you, you can't allow what they think to define you, or make you feel less. If they want only genetic females to reply then so be it. If some prefer a relationship with a genetic female over a trans woman then that's their choice and they have every right to it, for whatever reason. Try not to overthink stuff and allow it to get to you, don't think about what you aren't but what you are.
Let cisgender people do and think whatever they like, referring to them as different and personally recognising so called privilege doesn't make it go away, just try to continue on. I think that's the true, narrow road to normalcy.
