Need Advice I Am The Wife That Found Out And Trying To Understand.

[ReginaK]

Ok just say for the sake of conversation that you were born with this, have any of you talke to your family physician. I am just curious?? Had your thyroid and hormone levels checked?? What about a little testosterone.

You should read up on some of the things the Nazi's did during WWII. They also thought crossdressing, homosexuality, and many other things were related to hormone levels. Upon injecting the above mentiond people with testosterone, the only thing they ended up with was a bunch of horny, hyper-agressive crossdressers and homosexuals.

Even today in parts of the middle east, if you're caught crossdressing, you'll be injected with testosterone to fix your supposed "imbalance". And that's if you're lucky. The police are completely free to beat you and kill you on the spot.

Then why do you guys jack off to it??Any one have an answer??And while your doing that are you a girl being done by a girl or a guy being done by a girl while you are dressed in girl clothes??

Everyone masturbates. Married, unmarried, in a dress, in pants, or completely naked. Calling masturbation cheating is akin to calling chewing gum dinner.

As far as what's being thought about, does it really matter? Everyone has an outrageous thought once in a while. Some people think about killing their bosses. Some people think about being rich. And rarely do any of them accomplish it. It's just a thought. For all we know, your husband could be thinking about chocolate chip cookies.

Thoughts aren't crimes and everyone is entitled to them regardless of what they are. It's completely unfair and even scary that you would use a person's thoughts against them. Regardless of your husband's thoughts, YOU are his reality and that's all that matters.

But most of you men have come to the conclusion that you can touch upon your femine traits thus thrusting us into this mayhem. Do you think I like pumping gas carrying in the groceries making more money because half the men in this world do not get it on how to multi task and make a ton of money( almost all my girlfriends beat their mens salary).

From this, it sounds like you have a problem with stereotyping. Let's play "what if". What if your husband meets your demands, stops crossdressing, becomes the manly unemotional man you want him to be. Would you be happy? Now what he did that in exchange for you being a womanly woman? And by womanly woman, I mean no career, pregnant, and barefoot in front of the stove all day? Would you still be happy?

My point is you look like a hypocrite. You'll excuse tom-boyish behavior as "survival of the fittest", but you'll dimiss any "excuse" for crossdressing.

Again as I have said in other parts of todays dialogue is he the girl or the guy?? My fear lies in if he is the girl then is there a transgender issue. But yet he is not attracted to males.Do youget where I am coming from??That is my issue..And what I need help understanding at this time..

If he doesn't like guys, it's safe to say he is the guy. But even if he does like to think he's the girl, is it hurting anyone? It's better it stays a fantasy than become a reality. As long as he is monogamous, his fantasies are pretty non-issue.