I accept my husband. Why does he struggle to accept himself

[AnnieMac]

I must say this is one of the more thoughtful and deeper threads that I have read on this forum in quite a while, and I guess I should know, I've been guilty of a silly, snarky post myself every now and then. So I thank you for your thoughtful post Charlotte Ann. But it also still makes me sad that we as a society on a whole still have to talk about this; that a man can't just present himself and wear what he feels in public, without the usual disdained scrutiny, even if we do choose to wear a summer dress and prefer make-up once and while. But I guess normal GGs have experienced so much scrutiny on how they look, that maybe it just comes with cross dressing territory too.

Charlotte, you mentioned you have always been a bit of a tom-boy. I kind of think there is something to this with cross dressing (well, at least me ). So many of my young friends growing up where "tom-boy-style" girls and I think it's because I loved that part of their personality so much; that they could be whoever that felt like. I think that's because reflected in them was somehow what I was too, a tom-boy (or perhaps nancy-girl). Tom-boys as I was growing up were always a positive thing, or looked upon as cute, yet if you were male, any slight thing that you did that was remotely female was denigrated as being deviant. Geesh, I even got made fun of for taking piano lessons at the time, because that's what little girls did when I was growing up. (It was a class of all females, other than me, I must point out). Girls were sugar & spice, boys were puppy dog's tails. I didn't want to be a puppy dog's tail.

So, yes, I guess I am a tom-boy too. I feel male at times, and female at others and I would guess, cross dresser or not, the are a whole lot of other good folks out there that feel this way too. Life is short, it's time for all of us to be free, and I think we are starting to see progress, albeit at a snail's pace. Much love to all of my fellow "girls" on this forum!