I think this presumption is simply symptomatic of the general lack of knowledge about crossdressers that has been discussed elsewhere. I agree totally with the original poster that it seems utterly illogical to infer that because we dress to look feminine we must therefore be gay. If one were homosexual and seeking to attract another homosexual guy why on earth would you dress to look like a woman - this surely would be the least likely way to attract such a person.
My wife's immediate reaction when I finally told her about my crossdressing was to ask if I was gay. You might think that, after more than 25 years of marriage, she wouldn't feel the need to ask such a question but that merely serves to highlight the ignorance of people about us a group. So the onus is on us to educate "them out there". Ignorance often leads to bigotry in my experience so the solution to so much of the badmouthing and prejudice is to increase public awareness and knowledge of crossdressing.
Having said that, however, it is, of course, seldom so clear cut. I had always maintained that I was 100% heterosexual but...I find myself open to being attracted to some of my fellow crossdressers, even though I may know that they are really men. It seems that the brain is able to side-line that bit of information so that I can kiss, cuddle and "play" with another crossdresser. But that only happens to me when that CDer is in femme mode - meeting in male mode leaves me unmoved. Clearly the brain is in some way over-riding the knowledge of gender and saying this woman interests me. Whilst I have not had gay sex with a CDer we have certainly "played" very intimately!!! Does that make me gay? No, I don't think so - bi-sexual possibly.
Funny old life isn't it?
Keep enjoying it, I will
Michelle
xxx
