Halloween a time and excuse to crossdress in public

[ellbee]

I honestly hope everyone here who is getting all dolled-up for Halloween is taking it "seriously"...


1.) Dress up as a female who dressed up for Halloween (i.e., buy or put together an actual *costume* a GG would wear that day/night)

2.) Put some actual effort into it. Don't go just half-baked, because you're afraid someone might think you're "a little too much into it" -- who cares!


Others *will* appreciate it a heck of a lot more. And generally speaking, they'll also respect you more for it. You'll also get a lot more compliments.

The GG's will love it, too.


Oh, did I mention that you might just inspire a fellow sister to get the courage to dress up next year for her 1st time?

[Tracii G]

There seem to be a lot of closet dressers that talk about Halloween like its some free pass day for them to dress in public.
I bet they wouldn't actually walk out the front door and go anywhere in public.

[Maria 60]

Oh yes! It's amazing, I take full advantage any opportunity I can get. My children have made comments that for some reason when Halloween comes around I'm never around or have to work late. I make it a full week event. This year I believe its on a Monday which I wish be good to dress from Thursday night to Money night.

[andreanna]

Really. It's a cd holiday now?

[AllieBellema]

I'm sure I revealed to most, if not all at the pray I was at last year, that I cross dress when I was dressed up as a southern belle and looked the part pretty well. Then again, I had a lot of friends there that knew I do have an interest in it. I'm sure I'll make it more obvious this year as I plan on being Belle from Beauty and the Beast. No worries by me, just gonna go out and have fun!

[Marcelo]

A man once said, "Halloween is the National Day of Crossdressing." Yep, it's a good day to get all dressed up and hit the parties, grocery stores and malls.

Marcelo

[redtea]

To the people asking why not any other day? It's because Halloween creates social context as to why you are dressing up.

If you were to go out right now 9/18/16 fully dressed, the context people will think when they see you is "CDer, Tranny', Bigot's "what a faggot", some cis girls "gross", other cis girls "aw they look so cute and brave, I want their shoes", some cis guys "that's a dude right? RIGHT? idk, no it has to be"

Halloween is like "hey people are gonna be wearing weird things today, it's not some CDer, they are totally just doing this to show off their bravery to the ladies"
At least that is the context of it. To me it would feel about the same as any other day. I did however wear pink bunny ears on Easter at my job, Using the Context of the Holiday as my unspoken excuse.

If I ever get the guts and sink into the deepest pink someday, I want to try and buy Alcohol while passing as a young girl (like 18-21) It would be so funny to pass so hard that the cashier and manager can't accept your ID because the picture doesn't match. I think anyone who is trans should try this at least once in their life, Imagine how much pride you would feel knowing that you passed so well that it's not just a politically correct tolerance act...That people are completely certain that you are a girl, so certain they would rather deny alcohol than risk it on what they believe to be a girl using her BF's ID.

[Pat]

If you were to go out right now 9/18/16 fully dressed, the context people will think when they see you is "CDer, Tranny', Bigot's "what a faggot", some cis girls "gross", other cis girls "aw they look so cute and brave, I want their shoes", some cis guys "that's a dude right? RIGHT? idk, no it has to be"

You do understand that you're advancing this theory in a forum that is frequented by people who are out every single day of the year, right?

[franlee]

There is a friend of mine and my wife's that is large like I am. And I have seen her in pictures at a wedding in a Mother of the Brides suite that is not at all appealing to my fem style. But it has become an outfit that I want to wear for who knows why but almost to an obsession. I would luv to get the nerve to ask her to borrow it and the accessories for a Halloween party. She happens to have suffered a bout with cancer and her hair isn't much if any longer than mine and the same color. I want to masquerade as her if I can figure a way to ask I know she would lend it to me and even make me over to look similar to her. But I just don't want to share my CDing with her due to she talks to a lot of people we are all friends with and she isn't known as a secret keeper. And my wife would not approve of divulging to her my dressing for anything more than a party costume and she is pretty sharp so I'm afraid she would see right through me.

[Pat]

There seem to be a lot of closet dressers that talk about Halloween like its some free pass day for them to dress in public.
I bet they wouldn't actually walk out the front door and go anywhere in public.

Aw, that seems uncharacteristically mean. I like to think if they feel the urge, if they ramp themselves up about it, each year they'll come closer and eventually cross the threshold. It's a pretty important day in someone's life when they finally do and they have enough self-doubt without their own team adding to it. (Maybe I should get a cheer leader's outfit this year. Go Team Trans! )

[Kate Simmons]

Every time I go out dressed it's "Halloween"

[Krisi]

It seems this needs to be said each year:

If you are a crossdresser, if you own a $300 pair of breast forms, a $200 padded hip and butt garment, a $100 wig, bras, woman's shoes, jewelry, makeup, etc. and walk gracefully in high heels and go out in public, everyone you see will know that this isn't the first time in your life you have dressed as a woman. Now if you go to a bar or party in another town where nobody knows you, that shouldn't be a problem. If you go to a bar or party where family members, neighbors or people you work with will be, you are outing yourself as a crossdresser.

For some of us, that doesn't matter but for some, it would be a big mistake.

The only way to go out on Halloween dressed as a woman and not out yourself is to do a really clumsy job of it. Stuff your bra with socks and wear it too high, wear a costume wig from a party shop, ill fitting heels from a second hand store and wobble in them and don't shave your arm and leg hair. Overdo your makeup but do a really bad job of it.

For a real crossdresser, what fun is that?

[dolovewell]

I couldn't have said it better myself. It's way too expensive to do only once per year on Halloween.

[ellbee]

...if you own a $300 pair of breast forms, a $200 padded hip and butt garment, a $100 wig, bras, woman's shoes, jewelry, makeup, etc. and walk gracefully in high heels and go out in public, everyone you see will know that this isn't the first time in your life you have dressed as a woman.

And if they know how much any of this stuff costs? They're probably not exactly a non-CD'er, themselves.

Besides, who says you simply didn't borrow some of that?

The only way to go out on Halloween dressed as a woman and not out yourself is to do a really clumsy job of it. Stuff your bra with socks and wear it too high, wear a costume wig from a party shop, ill fitting heels from a second hand store and wobble in them and don't shave your arm and leg hair. Overdo your makeup but do a really bad job of it.

And make a mockery out of GG's & trans people?

No.

[docrobbysherry]

Because it's the only time of the year she can go out masked without creeping folks out!

And, because I was masked, I have actually PASSED a few times around Halloween!

Which is how I know there's a world of difference being treated as a trans/CD or a GG!:brolleyes:

Do NOT dress up as a woman. Dress as a woman wearing a costume if u wish to possibly pass and not be made as a dresser.

Me last year in Hollywood:
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[Teresa]

Krisi,
Dressing doesn't have to cost that sort of money to look good, sometimes reading that gives the wrong impression to those just starting out that they need to spend money to qualify as a CDer.

My social group will have the next meeting on the 21st October, which is the nearest date to Halloween, but it also happens to be Trafalgar Day in the UK , it's not celebrated widely but its' given me a great idea for a costume.

[~Joanne~]

Aw, that seems uncharacteristically mean. I like to think if they feel the urge, if they ramp themselves up about it, each year they'll come closer and eventually cross the threshold. It's a pretty important day in someone's life when they finally do and they have enough self-doubt without their own team adding to it. (Maybe I should get a cheer leader's outfit this year. Go Team Trans! )

I fully agree. Each year that you do it, you get a little more closer to that threshold. This year I am hoping to go to a mall that I have always wanted to go to while fully dressed. The day (monday) plays a lot into it so if I do finally actually get out there during the day in a very public place, it may take me to a whole new level of CDing.

Nobody goes to the mall the first time they go out dressed and you'd be a fool to do so. Halloween is a great day to get your stocking feet wet this year a whole weekend could be made of it and who knows what doors it may open for you on your personal journey.

[BettyMorgan]

There seem to be a lot of closet dressers that talk about Halloween like its some free pass day for them to dress in public.
I bet they wouldn't actually walk out the front door and go anywhere in public.

You're probably right. I wanted to dress up for Halloween for years. Decades. The thought tormented me but the fear won out. Familiar story?

Never had the courage until two years ago when I came out to my supportive GG at the age of 51. I figured now was the time. I was passable, so much so that many colleagues and people I work with did not recognize me that day. Yes it was scary to leave the house since this was the first time I had gone the full nine yards including wig and makeup - I did my best to be respectful of the female form (no hairy legs or mustache as many men do when pretending to be women). I went to work dressed and it was an eyeopening experience. The sexual innuendo was something I didn't expect but it's something that our GG friends deal with all too frequently. I went again last year, and was even more convincing (practice practice practice). And again, similar remarks, and questions about my abilities to walk in heels and apply nail polish. I was open about any questions such as "Nope, it's my dress." (Left it at that becasue they looked stunned lol). "Yes, I did my own makeup, my SO taught me the day before." "Yes, I did shave my legs. When I dress for Halloween, I go all out."

Would I encourage others to do the same? Hell YES! Do it. Use whatever excuse you can think of why you look so passable (if you are in the closet). But don't buy one of thise cheap Halloween "sexy _fill in the blank_" costumes in the plastic bags. Yuck.

Excuses you can use:
I borrowed this dress (or got it at Goodwill in the Halloween area).
My SO did my makeup/nails.
The wig is from the Halloween store.
Hell, no, I bought my own pantyhose. Do you think I'm that gross.
Yes I painted my nails. It's not rocket science.
I can walk in high heels because I wear cowboy boots/work boots often and that helps with balance.

Good luck and may the Femme Goddesses be watching over you.

[MartineCD]

I agree with AllieSF in that even if you make a decent attempt at passing, people aren't going to point fingers and assume you're a CDer.

I can't believe I'd forgotten this until just now. I know this isn't about Halloween but I think the circumstances are similar enough.

A good friend of my SO and I invited us to her Fancy Dress Eurovision Song Contest Party. We were informed that each person was to come up with a costume to suit the countries she would assign to everyone at random. My SO got Italy and I got Israel. Long story shorter after much banter and cajoling it was decided that I would attend as the winner of the contest from a year or two previously (Dana International).

Now to say my SO wasn't happy would be an understatement and in mild protest she went to the party with the Italian flag draped over her shoulders while I arrived in my normal civies with my costume in a plastic bag.

The other party goers were disappointed and I was hustled into a bedroom to change followed by two young men. These two turned out to be our hostesses nephew and his partner. She had assumed something like me backing out might happen so she had them there to help fix my make-up if needed. The guys were very quick but I was slightly disappointed that they only knew how to apply make-up 'Drag style' as they put it. Once alone I put on my cheap costume shop wig, fishnet bodystocking, sparkly top, matching skirt and peep toe heels (all borrowed from my SO) and went to join the party.

There has never been a suggestion either at the party or since about the possibilty of my being a CD.

[Krisi]

The subject of "pink fog" is often discussed on this forum. It's clear to me that many of the posters on this thread are suffering from it at the moment.

[Lori Kurtz]

...many of the posters on this thread are suffering from it [the pink fog] at the moment.

"Suffering" from the pink fog? I think most are rather enjoying it.

[ellbee]

The subject of "pink fog" is often discussed on this forum. It's clear to me that many of the posters on this thread are suffering from it at the moment.

I've thought about this for a while before replying, and I beg to differ.


There have been times in my life where I wouldn't wear *anything* at least bit feminine in any way, for 6 months, a year, 2 years -- even 3.5 years.

No need, no wish, no desire. Yet plenty of opportunity.


And you know what? During those times, my views & response on something like this regarding Halloween would be exactly the same.

Has nothing to do with pink fog.


Of course, you're free to think & feel however you like. But I know in my case that I'm looking at this pretty darn objectively & honestly.

[SarahBJackson]

I have red heels so I want to go out as Supergirl

[Majella St Gerard]

I think crossdressing on Halloween is a good first step out in public. Any questions, you can always say it was a dare. If you do it every year, people might start to think. I am not in the closet and crossdress on a regular basis so on Halloween I dress in a female costume. Dressing as a woman is not a costume for me, the 1st time yes, but not after that.

[joanna4]

I always dress and go out when I want to and can, like to parties and malls. For Halloween, I can get dressed up in front of my friends and family and go to work and school. It worked great last year since I'm in college and work retail and it wasn't a big deal so I thrive to do it again as an extra day of dressing up and being seen by those who know me and doing things I do on a daily basis in this case, school and work since it will be on a Monday this year.