Lily I am not quite sure what you mean by this, but if I understand correctly, you are saying don't dwell excessively on dressing up, correct?
Absolutely. The 'missing' part would refer to having the aftertaste of "that part of me" still lingering. I think it's just me trying to keep myself busy, though. I still insist that I not let it overwhelm me. It's not just the clothes, dare I say.
The crossdressing community is one that needs to stick together and continue to be there for each other for whatever one needs. We are always trying to improve the forum to better serve the crossdresser in all of us.