IMHO there are several CD's on this site who would "pass" to me anyway, at first glance at least from a distance, because they look/dress like nicely dressed middle aged women. Now in closer interaction they might not...but someone just walking by might not notice them...even the folks here who know the "Tells".

That said....I've seen more non-binary folks than CD's...and I think that's because the vast majority of CD's have no desire to go out amongst the Muggles...I mean No-Maj... the people who are NOT-trans.

Anecdote. I was once a member of a support group up near Chicago....oh okay it was Chi Chapter when it was still a Tri-Ess group....CGS had their meetings on TUESDAY at that time, or I'd have joined THEM.

Anyway, I got a rep for...well....being levelheaded and mostly self accepting (I still have issues but compared to the average CD back then....it was nothing) I was talking with another member who was suggesting I run for a leadership spot and was talking about the trials and travails of running a CD support group. Basically Herding cats.

Now the meeting place was near a large shopping emporium....oh okay the meeting place is the Double Tree in Oak Brook (don't worry Chi Chapter openly publicizes the location...NOW....they didn't back when I was a member....I think that was one of the changes that caused the rift between Chi and Tri-Ess national), right across the road from Oak Brook Centre, which has a MAC, Sephora, Lord & Taylor, etc etc. Now this member was saying that she'd been trying to encourage members to engage more in public because the world outside the group wasn't all that scary....but nobody was interested.

I said I would be interested, but she said to me: "But Veronica, you don't NEED outings like this, you go out on your own shopping for girl stuff en femme or en boy mode whenever you want to. I've SEEN those little MAC and Sephora bags sticking out of the side pocket of your purse....don't tell me you haven't been over there on your own before meetings" And of course, I had. And then she talked about the various demographics basically stating something like:

"Fetish/few item CD's outnumber the rest, in general they don't go out and have no desire to.
then there's the everything CD's...but plenty have no desire to go out at all.
Then there's the subset of THAT who do go out, but only to GLBT clubs/support groups.
Then there's the subset of That group who go wherever they want...which are a small group, but THEY are the ones that run the support groups and take the most pictures and do most of the talking on the websites.
And about a 1/3rd of THEM are really TS's that haven't figured it out yet or are in the process of figuring it out like you Veronica, so they aren't really crossdressers."

Then she made the common joke that becoming an officer of a support group for crossdressers was a signifier of an eventual transition...and then admitted that she wanted to transition but had made a commitment to her wife as a male and felt obligated to continue that commitment even if she'd rather be female.

And THAT is why you won't see many CD's in public and if you DO see one, there's a goodly chance that the CD in question might not be as strongly male identified as most CD's here.

Veronica