I'm glad everything seems to have worked out well, but you are going to continue to have "Oh crap" moments if you don't think things through. You have apparently either left the doors open or unlocked or given people keys. That's not a good situation if you're walking around your house dressed as a woman and don't want people to know. Anyone can (and just did) walk in on you.
Putting anything involving your dressing on the Internet (or phone) lets it out of your control. You don't know who will be watching when your wife watches your video and you don't know that someone else might be using her phone and see the video.
If you don't care, that's fine, but if your reaction is "Oh crap", you've got to consider all the possibilities.
