Judy, that is DISTURBING. I am a SO, and I find that very disturbing. That she could be watching you when she is not home??? If it is true, or not I think that is a form of emotional/ psychological abuse! I would sit down and talk to her about how that made you feel. It is okay for her to have expectations about what your responsibilities are around the house, but not to say she is watching you!! I do not think that is fair.
