To many here it seems to mean, " sneak, hide, and lie". So, why not just call it, SHL", instead?
To me and my disapproving university attending, adult daughter who lives with me, it means this:
I felt I had to tell her or I would get caught. Sneaking around became so stressful it was ruining the enjoyment of dressing after she moved in full time at age 18.
Now, I tell her in advance when I will dress and where in the house and/or grounds I will be dressed and filming. We discuss where she will be so she won't see me.
She doesn't like it. But, as our therapist explained, "CD's can't give this up when they r as involved as your dad is. So, if it bothers u that much u can move out or come to a compromise that works for u both." And, it has. She doesn't ever have to see me dressed and my dressing is exciting, relaxing, and stress free again!
What does DADT mean to u? Why don't u call it SHL if u won't/can't discuss it with your SO to work out a compromise?