It's really hard for our SOs to get used to our real selves when we've been having trouble getting used to ourselves. My wife doesn't mind it, is not aroused by me en femme, doesn't want to go out while I'm en femme and doesn't really care about my purchases or makeup skills even though I clearly love them. It's just rough. She's known for over a decade now and we're still together. I crave to have someone to share my obsessions with.