In some sense, I like DADT.
I select and buy my on clothes. She doesn't see them, so she can't disagree with them. They're not too short, too revealing, too pink, or whatever. I have full freedom to select what pleases me.
she knows I go out, but not where. She doesn't know if I stay in a larger closet, if I'm fully out in public. she has nothing to complain about.
I know from talking to her that she doesn't feel that she can handle full honesty. I never expect to reach full acceptance. I'll accept full tolerance, but I'm not even there yet.
I try to live withing the agreed boundaries. However, if she goes, the boundaries go with her.
