As I recently posted in another similar thread, with rare exceptions, our TG nature is a part of who we are. It doesn't "get better", doesn't go away with the clothes when we purge. To be sure, the desire comes and goes (still waiting for an explanation of that pattern), but rare indeed is the person who successfully and permanently purges that part of their nature. In most cases, one will be much happier coming to grips with that reality. Not that it's easy, or without trade-offs, but one can let go of the guilt. After that, decisions like in the closet or not, whom to tell or not, etc. can be made with practical necessity in mind rather than guild or some other emotion. I realize that this seems like a rather glib pronouncement and to an extent it is. I am simplifying a complex dynamic, but I've been at this a long time, and it is what I've come to believe, through my own experience and through what others communicate to communities like this one.
Hugs,
Kelly Marie
