The problem I see with a lot of DADT stories is that the conversations are only negative ones once the DADT is established. As you show above they relate to her finding something or her concerns about your progression. You never get to talk about how great it is or any of the positives. So your dressing becomes the dark side, meaning no good can come from it. How do you get nice positive discussions going? If I knew that I would have written THE book and retired on teh royalties by now I'm sure.
