Who the hell cares what "society" thinks anyways.
A better solution would be to be your OWN G/F. Just think, no rejection of intimacy based on ailments. No having to remember stupid "special" days.
I know what one is thinking - "Yeah but there are certain things one just cannot do for themselves". This is true. HOWEVER, dating yourself is a small percent of the satisfaction of dating but with ZERO percent of the B.S.
This explains why some really pretty women date the nastiest ogres that were belched from the worst part of the ghetto. As far as participation - such women who date said ogres will proudly parade their new lover around town like it is some kind of accomplishment that he said "yes".
Women are allowed to have standards but they do not particularly like it when men have standards.